He went on about he heard I'd got married, looked like I'd had a baby, and that, "she looks just like you!" - United States - King Of Prussia, By I started texting him and once I told him who it was, he stopped replying. I guess security thought my Michael Jackson crotch-grab was funny, because a printout of it is now pinned in our break room. cue back of hand to forehead and swooning But you are exactly right in how to go about handling this. Thus, more insecurity -> more reassurance seeking -> more insecurity, and so on. I think there is. An ex and I dated from senior year of high school through senior year of college (18-22); also the first real relationship for either of us. But you're right, she says it so much in the hopes of hearing it back. I agree. Apparently winning, playing by the rules, and smashing is considered aggressive. But it also does matter if you feel the same and say it to him too? Conversely, OP should (in addition to asking her to show love in a different way) take note that his SO's love language is clearly words of affirmation and work at affirming his SO verbally, as it is probably not his strong-suit. Their expectations and what they're looking for in a significant other are just two different things. FML, Today, I went to get new shoes. How can I make my partner believe that you can not overuse the ‘I love you’ term. The reason it's called the 5 Love Languages: eg. First of all, examine your own behaviour. Every. Do you spend enough time with her? In some cases, your constant adoration can just fuel an-already-big ego. Well, tonight I’m making a pretty big move. My fiancé tells me he loves me a lot, but I don't know..I've never had anyone tell me that from the heart so it never gets old to me. Am I a bad person for hating how often she tells me she loves me? She's happy and excited and on cloud 9 and she loves you and loves her life with you. Your girlfriend has become very cold and distant lately. I'm 28m, she's 22f. - United States - Loma Linda. FML, Today, when I proposed to my girlfriend of 8 years, she said no because she thought we were moving too fast. FML, Today, I was having sex with my girlfriend, and I really started getting into it. FML, Today, I had to listen to a girl who just came back from the bathroom, talk about the "gigantic massive dump" she took, and even held her hands up to show the size. She will value you, so much so that she would never do anything to hurt you. Love takes time to grow. Maybe instead of saying STFU, you can ask her to SHOW her love in other ways that would suit YOU better? The other began to lick my ankles profusely until I lost my balance and fell on him, breaking his leg. I reply with, "I know baby!" If your girlfriend is telling you that she thinks you are too clingy, it means that she’s losing respect and attraction for you. We've been going out for over a year and a half and living together for six months. There’s no such thing. FML, Today, a car backfired as I waited for my bus and I screamed, thinking I'd been shot. OP probably isn't going to like this but I do think that him and his girlfriend are at different stages in life and you simply can't force someone to grow up. These are some signs she doesn’t love you even when she says she does. FML, Today, I proposed to my girlfriend from the top of a bungee jumping platform at an amusement park. Say it with love and she'll hopefully realize. FML, Today, to prevent a fistfight at work, I had to mediate a contested debate between two coworkers on what was evidently a very touchy subject: Which is better, the orange creamsicle or the ice cream sandwich? Manolo gets his Mariachi band friends, the Rodriguez brothers (voices of Gabriel Iglesias, Cheech Marin, and Ricardo Sanchez), to help serenade her. well it would get annoying if you kept saying it, did anyone take into consideration that he may have been saying it too much? It looks like for you to question this, you feel he is doing it far more than you. Don’t use this space for discussions, advertising or spam, or for posting anything which isn’t an FML. Have you just experienced an FML moment? I told Mr. Doe when we first started dating that I was his girlfriend— nothing more serious than that— and if he got all clingy, I'd probably break it off. It described that people have love tanks, and like a fuel tank in your car - it gets filled up by different things. Hugs etc. Turns out I'd slipped my hard-earned $100 bill instead. Your story must start with “Today,” and end with “FML”. I paid. THERE IS NOTHING EXTRA I accidentally shot the gum out of my mouth onto the guy next to me, spitting all over myself in the process. Send a private message 29 3 Reply Reply He actually made my friends uncomfortable as well because he'd do it to me when we were out with them. Whether people admit to wanting to hear it … My bf has not said he loves me yet (due to his culture or the fact he doesn't acually love me). This morning, by the time she left for work, I had been up for 30 minutes and she had told me she loved me 6 times, in between her being in a different room getting ready and I eating breakfast. FML, Today, I shattered a coffee pot at work and ended up with a piece of glass in my eye. Him saying he loves you a lot could very well be what he means by saying it. I will never love another person with as much intensity as I love you… Tell her that when you hear it so much it takes the special spark out of it. You can’t say I love you too much. Eg. My neighbour, who has always hated me, came up, patted me on the back, and said, "That sucks for you." FML, Today, my niece, who is fifteen, convinced my six-year-old daughter that her name is spelled C-U-N-T, and just pronounced as Catherine. Is it possible her age has something to do with it? If you respond with anything else they know they ****ed up. This is called excessive reassurance-seeking. When your spouse says something to you like, “I want you to know how much I appreciate all of your hard work for me and our family,” then you know how they like to receive love as well. She is emotional. Wouldn't want to pick favorites... #277 made me lol so hard i fell off the chair XD. :). I unplugged the second monitor so I could lie on my bed. FML, Today, at work, I was informed that my manager told the owner, "Everything wrong with my department" is me. No, I honestly didn't miss you. It is a bad signal, it means you reach out for her, and not the opposite. While cuddling on the couch, he asked me for a blow job. It really does happen; you can be in a relationship with a woman who claims to love you but deep down your gut instincts tell you that she doesn’t. You’re actually much more likely to talk too much and make too many relationship mistakes if you’re texting all the time and making yourself too available. FML, Today, I went on a date with a guy I met on-line. I like hearing him say it, I like saying it back and seeing the smile it brings on his face. It's not always so clear, though, what a person means when they say that. So your partner provides the reassurance you were looking for (e.g., they say "I love you" back). She clearly never gives you a chance to spontaneously say "I love you", so you're in the clear on that one. Really, it's getting so obnoxious and under my skin that I can't stand it. It was expired. Let's just say I ran home that night. The memories The rest is just bull****. So your partner provides the reassurance you were looking for (e.g., they say "I love you" back). I told my SO not to ask if I miss him too, because I'll tell him the truth and it sets one up for possible failure... or if he does say, "I miss you!" If you cannot, you need to be more direct with her and say something like "You tell me you love me so much I can't help but think you're worried I don't love you enough. Today, my girlfriend told me to stop saying "I love you" so much because it's starting to annoy her. Until it hit my windshield. Turns out, I was pointing at the wrong girl. When my sons’ girlfriends are around, I get to see a side of my boys I don’t normally see. FML, Today, I confided to my boyfriend that I have a condition that causes me to grow thick toe hair. We've been apart for half a day, and on a daily basis you act like you hadn't seen me in months. FML, Today, my house caught fire and almost burned down. When you show too much attention, it can be exhausting. What about the rest? As revenge, he stole my iPod. You are treating this as being insecure - perhaps she is simply insecure because OP sucks at affirming her verbally, which is probably the case if OP doesn't care about verbal affirmation, which OP has stated. f my lifw he says it rarely now (once or twice a month) but I kno he means it when he says it. I don't think she loves u back so stop saying it, owned, first and nice and moist, for example, Today, I decided to fake it when my husband and I were making love. After my oldest son first started dating his girlfriend, he told me, “You’re going to like her too much and it’s going to be a problem.” I am not entirely sure what he meant but I am guessing he knew I would get attached. 7. Actually that's a very good point. They saw all ten of them. it took my bf almost a yr to say he loved me. Don’t try reposting old FMLs, we’re not that daft. Though it's important to show your girlfriend how much you care and to be open and honest with her, you shouldn't put all of your cards on the table unless you want her to get complacent. FML, Today, I went to buy some makeup. She just doesn't know how to reel it in. Now I have to look like a pirate until its healed, and it's nowhere near Halloween. A girl that loves ‘too much’ will never run out of love for you. 1. If I tell her it's getting to be a bit much, she storms off on the verge of crying like I hate her. It feels like she has lost interest in you and in the relationship. maybe she's not the one for you. He was in constant need of reassurance because he was incredibly insecure. Everytime you chase a person, - even a girlfriend - this person's attitudes are going to be compatible with running away from you. Ever since we first said it, she has been like a toddler whose learned a new phrase. So OP's SO is needing "words of affirmation" from OP in order to feel loved. moms a baby In fact, as far as relationships go it’s one of the biggest moves you can make outside of getting married. I don't mind if my boyfriend says I love you, but if he's saying it every second of every day, I would start getting annoyed, no matter how much I loved him. An ambulance ended up having to be called for one lady. I can accurately predict when she will say it to me by the tone in her voice leading up to it and the fact that it's been more than 30 seconds since she last said it. ...I don't think it means that. But the reassurance isn't reassuring, because you prodded for it. You're just going to have to actually have a conversation about this. That you are committed and happy in this, however you want the I love you's to be a treat rather than an overindulgence. 6. At the end of the night, he broke up with me because I wasn't fun enough. If you aren’t exactly sure how to communicate in your spouse’s love language, just watch them and listen to them. Basically, you feel insecure, so you seek reassurance (e.g., saying "I love you"). Just so madly in love that we couldn't help but say "I love you" every chance we could. Forget what she says and watch what she doesn’t. Lisa- This is a little personal, but how long have you two been together? She replied, "Doubt it" and yawned. The only thing more humiliating than that was the pissy underwear I had to go back home to change out of. Dealing with immature young women is hard, and we ALL at that age are going to fly off the handle and get all whiney and weepy when we're told we're not perfect. The language in which you naturally express love is also going to be the language in which you naturally want to receive love back. Good god. I asked the cute guy who worked there for a size 9.5. Tags: Girlfriend, Growth, Happy, Love 2 comments. I love it when you say cute things like that. If you cause her to lose too much respect and attraction for you, she will eventually fall out of love with you. FML, Today, I finally decided to accept a date proposal from a guy who's had a crush on me for years. Follow the instructions below, and if your story gets through the moderation process, it'll published in the next 24 hours. my bf and I only say it a few times a year because we both know and feel it. it's so annoying when everyone is like "baby, I love you baby" the word loses meaning so fast.. also, it causes more fights- "why didn't you say you love me before you hung up?" Unfortunately, it reacted in a way it never had before: clawed his arms to bits, bit him so hard a tooth fell out, peed everywhere, including on me, and pooped on the carpet. Instead of defaulting to the screen, Airplay somehow synced it to the living room TV, where the rest of my family was watching a movie. I yelled out, "WILL YOU MARRY ME?" FML, Today, while building a gingerbread house with my two kids, they thought it would be funny to pee on it while I wasn't looking. exactly... once a month or so is good. This evening, I stepped out my front door and directly onto a copperhead snake. FML, Today, it was my first day being home after doing a 4 and a half month hike through the Appalachian Trail. :] We'd been good friends for years first, though. Feel like sharing it with the other FML users? He hasn't asked because I already made it very clear I have no interest in marriage. You must be logged in to be able to post comments! Thank you, your FML was submitted it will appear in moderation soon ! I don't mind if my boyfriend says I love you, but if he's saying it every second of every day, I would start getting annoyed, no matter how much I loved him. I read this as well, and I enjoyed it. Washing the dishes, clearning the car. A few minutes later, our teacher said we were allowed to use our notes to finish the test. 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